If you go to the top and do a search by typing in the word Expectations, you will encounter a thread that I began, and to which Jan and Jenna and others responded. It has helped me a great deal, and I even copied the post, printed it, and gave it to my children. I hope it helps. Don't give up on yourself, no matter what others say. You have many who understand. I believe we "step up our game" every time we do anything at all that is normal for most people.