My husband and I are both grads. We have two boys, non school aged.
I'm curious about other (older) dual West Point couples with kids and how the kids viewed mom. I find myself omitting that I, also, graduated from West Point when the kids see pictures of cadets or Trophy Point, etc. When talk turns to West Point, I always highlight what dad and grandpa did there.
I guess my husband and I both qualify as an "older grad couple" :-)-both class of '87.
We have three children. Our daugther is oldest at 14, and two boys are 11 and 6.
I think what you explain in your posting is very NORMAL.
You are pointing out the obvious male role models for your young sons - Dad and grandpa.
(You will know when they will appreciate hearing about your accomplishments too.)
BTW - I've been at home, primarily raising our children (and enabling my husband:-) since completing my active duty obligation in '93.
You (We) worked our butts off at West Point, just as much (if not more than) our male counterparts. Don't sell yourself short in being a positive role model for your children - both SONS and daughters! Kids are smarter than we think, and if we (women) start diminishing the "anyone can do this" perception, we'll shoot ourselves in our colletive feet!
I married an Air Force officer (ROTC, USC - well, SOMEBODY in the family had to come from a school with a solid football team - that's Southern Cal, not South Carolina). Both of us offer lessons from our military experiences to our sons (6 and 8) and I lead our school's Veteran's Day activities. He's the cook in the family (personal hobby) and now our 6 year old wants to grow up and be a professional chef (which are mainly men, BTW, not women). Both boys love the fact that mom is 'cool' in the woods for camping and can handle the hikes (that's debatable). Both parents can share the 'traditional' roles in a family without sacrificing any manliness or femininity. My 2 mobilizations in the Army Reserve gave our boys lots of Dad time, which has made us all stronger and independent (but we're also glad that I'm now retired).
And so I traded a US Army uniform for a Boy Scout uniform and am using skills from the Army (and business since I work full time for Northrop Grumman) in helping lead young boys (and their families) in our small town of 3500 people.
Vicki (Vogel) Flack
If they ever get teased about "your momma wears Amry boots!," our boys will say "You bet!"
I do have similar views as Vicki on this topic, although I DON'T GO CAMPING!! :)
My children (4--2 boys, 2 girls) know that both Mommy AND Daddy graduated from WP. They know that we're both very capable at a lot of things. Daddy cooks better; Mommy knows more about lacrosse. Daddy is the "soccer mom;" Mommy makes sure school stuff is taken care of.
The most important thing we do for our children, I think, is encourage them IN THEIR OWN ABILITIES. They don't have to worry about living up to what Mommy and Daddy did at WP or what the other ones are doing now b/c each of them has something that makes him/her unique. THAT is what we focus on.
Sure, we show pictures of us. But we show pictures of them growing up, too. What makes each special? The pictures often show it when they are young, just as ours do when we were...
I am a bit older and my son is about to graduate from George washington University and be commissioned a 2lt Aviation, US Army. I am a WP grad and my husband is a University of South Florida Grad. We met during the basic course. Our son has always been proud of the military service of both his parents. When he was smaller he was quick to tell people that only his Mom was a WP grad and thought "your mother wears Army boots" was a complement. I guess the times have changed and now it is.
I find that people seem to always assume my husband is the west point grad and FBI agent, but both my husband and my son set them straight.
Be proud of being a WPW, your kids will just make that as part of what a Mom is. Marene
As a USNA gran married to a USNA grad, I wonder why female USMA grads are ashamed of their college and service? Why would you "omit" the details of your service to your boys? Why only emphasize what dad or grandpa did? Do you emphasize that you like to cook and clean house so that the boys grow up knowing that women can not do anythign that a man can do? What is this teaching them? This seems very odd to me. Can you help me to understand why you would not tell them all that you did and that women are capable of doing??